A great many Dad's ( and Son's ) have found that the possession of an edition of this little book, with its ideas and suggestions has made a great difference when they are applied to the difficult Son's in their charge to their great satisfaction.
First off, as a Daddy you always lead the way. You set the tone and atmosphere of the relationship. You do this by setting down a set of Rules or an Honor Code for your Son to follow. You reward your Son when he's good. And you must discipline him promptly when he's bad. Remember " He who spares the rod spoils the boy. " Your Son expects and desires this so don't waste your time. If he steps out of line, give him a punishment. He'll be glad you did. When it comes to discipline, use stern corporal punishments. i.e.; canings, strappings, spankings and humiliations. Never lose sight of the fact that a little punishment can go a long way and that most Sons prefer a firm approach to a soft one and recognize that it is in their best interests in the long run.
Remember too that Sons are always inclined to be naughty for at least some of the time and that punishment is usually expected by them. By being a stern but fair administrator of punishment you will earn their respect so that your Son will know when to expect it and will virtually ask that it be given to him on occasions.
The first rule of all to impress on your Son is the need for absolute punctuality. He should arrive and depart exactly on time, neither earlier nor later than set. Strict punctuality when enforced will also encourage the timely completion of schoolwork and respect for the time of others. Do not fail to punish the slightest infractions with great firmness from the beginning.
Upon entering into the relationship, you must show your Son all the tools of punishment. He will, most likely, both fear and desire them. It will be his duty to keep them in tip top condition. And eventually, he will have the honor of making his own birch or cane. Eventually, when he misbehaves, he will willingly ask you for his punishments and ask to be punished with the honor cane he made with his own hands.
Always ensure that you have a sufficient range of punishment instruments to suit the age, size, disposition temperament and build of your Son. Sons come in all shapes and sizes as do their bottoms and what will produce tears and howls from one boy may elicit nothing from another. The instrument is part of the punishment. Let your Son see your collection and let them fear which it is you will select on each occasion. You may sometimes ask them to chose. Always note which instruments have most impact on your Son and take early opportunities to test their reactions and establish those which have the greatest impact for them, the mere threat of which will induce obedience.
Always stretch and play with your Son's foreskin, _c_o_c_k_ and balls while administering a punishment. He likes and learns from the delicious combination of pleasure and punishment. Precum and ejaculation are to be encouraged and rewarded.
For many Son's, there is nothing so effective as a spanking over Dads knee to bring them to better behavior and orgasm. Most domestic hairbrushes will do nicely, as they have weight and will deliver a firm smack to a boys bottom. The hand can of course be effective but in such cases it is usually best to take down your Sons trousers and spank his bare bottom. This humiliating treatment will work treating them as naughty little children. For really difficult Son's it may only be a preliminary treatment and further measures will be needed.
As a rule 12 smacks up to 2 dozen should be given at a steady pace covering the whole area alternating between each buttock. For a more impressive effect deliver groups of 3 smacks in succession on the same spot. Son's who are used to punishment will usually outgrow this treatment but for the younger and newer ones it can be very efficacious.
Tears are not to be regretted, nor should a Dad cease punishment because of them. Rather he should continue to the end of the assigned number of strokes even intensifying the strength to bring home to the Son his fault. If still tearful he should be placed somewhere quiet to reflect and to recover his emotions. Usually a corner of the room will do. If the Sons trousers have been taken down or removed they should not be allowed him until signs of better behavior are shown.
It is often a most effective treatment to insist that the your Son -- who has just been punished -- is seated at the desk on a hard stool or chair without the benefit of his trousers or underclothing. This will remind him of the punishment and thus reduce the likelihood of any repetition as well as affording instant access to the bare bottom if any further correction needs to be applied. Placing an appropriate punishment item before him will further reinforce this lesson.
The birch is one of the most effective instruments for punishment ever devised. Its severity and effect is as great or as little as is devised in its construction and its use allows infinite variety. It is of course always used on the bared bottom, and a kneeling or similar position is to be preferred. No less than 6 and no more than 24 strokes should be administered.
It is always a good idea to have your Son manufacture his own personal rod from materials provided. It is salutary to have your Son do so with his trousers already removed immediately prior to its use on him. This along with other procedures and techniques reinforces the law that makes him have to bare his bottom on any and all occasions that you command for his punishments. It should be a rare honor for him not to have to do so and it should be his normal instinct to begin to unbutton the moment he knows he is to be chastised and to present his butt already bared to you for the punishment.
A Son's bottom is particularly sensitive where the legs and thighs end and the bottom begins. This is where he sits and a skilled disciplinarian will concentrate his efforts over time on this spot. Any flexible slipper or sole or paddle will do to tenderize and redden the boy there. Make sure a healthy "slap" sound is produced and eventually you will get some "Ows" and "Ahs" to match. Watch him when he resumes his seat. Does he squirm and sit down carefully? Or does he sit down heavily without any hesitation? If the former well and good. If the latter then more care, intensity and effort is needed.
Be sure that you are leaving no area unaffected by your treatment. It is easy to forget that there are two sides to your Son's bottom and it is common for right handed Dads to thrash all on the right and left on the left. If you place your Son over a low stool, bench, ottoman or table it is easy to change sides and ensure that there is no skin untouched by your attentions and that after a prolonged period of training the most troublesome Son has had a thoroughly good taste of discipline.
When delivering a thorough caning/spanking/strapping it is best if you can make your Son spread his legs and his ass cheeks wide. This increases the target area and affords an opportunity to land the cane in the inner cheeks increasing the effectiveness of the punishment. You may wish to finger _f_u_c_k_ or dildo him in this position. If your Son requests this, you must comply.
To be always physically disciplining your Son is not really a practical method and an element of moderate humiliation will often make more of an impression and make them more wary of punishment than the fiercest of spankings. You can't keep spanking your Son's horny butt all the time so you must learn how to keep him in line using humiliation. Remember not all Son's react the same way, so you may have to experiment to find the most effective humiliation for him. Please see the section on " Clothing, " for more ideas in this department.
Although you may not always like it, you must let your Son have complete access to your _c_o_c_k_ at all times. And you his. Encourage your Son to show off his equipment when ever he pleases.
Although your Son will whine and complain, you must set a sartorial tone for him. Underwear unless it fulfills a mutual interest is forbidden. Shorts should be a size or two small. Jeans should have appropriate rips and should be very tight fitting.
Although not absolutely necessary or universally applicable, sometimes English School Boy Shorts make an interesting addition. They can be used as a mild humiliation or as a punishment or both when worn in public or private. Make or have made a series of gray worsted school short trousers. Prepare them in the following manner.
In the first pair have two triangular tears, not very big, but enough to see if your Son's bottom has been spanked. These are for public use as a punishment.
The second pair should have a large square cut out of the back.
The third pair should have no middle seam. These are pretty excellent for when your Son tries to cover his front, his backside is exposed. And when he tries to cover his back side, his front is exposed.
The forth pair should have a zipper on the side and a rather a small hole to pull his _c_o_c_k_ and balls through. With both out, it will be a little uncomfortable sitting down.
A fifth pair should have a large hole at the front.
A sixth pair should be pretty much normal, albeit, very brief. Your Son should only be allowed to wear these if he has proved worthy of them.
And the last pair should look quite ordinary and fit well. These are for school and social occasions. The only difference is they should contain a butt plug in the back sewn in at seam level. These may take some getting use to, so lube up the plug and have your Son put them on. Then instruct him to sit on a hard wooden chair. He'll complain, but he'll get use to them.
In regards to any other pants, make sure the front pockets are cut out so you can access his _c_o_c_k_ and balls at all times.
You must teach your Son to be completely uninhibited. So when appropriate, insist he be naked. Appropriate shoes -- if any -- would be doc's.
It's up to the Dad to keep both himself and his boy properly shaved at all times. The _c_o_c_k_ should be trimmed. balls and ass should be entirely denuded. Do this on a weekly basis.
It is the sole responsibility of the Dad to supply his ward with all desired toys i.e.: _c_o_c_k_rings, dildoes, paddles, butt plugs etc. Take your Son to the local _s_e_x_ shop and let him browse. If he shows a special interest in a new cane or anything, get it for him. Deny him nothing. This is an important reward for obedient behavior.
Should you Son wish to be pierced, you are not to deny him. And again it is the responsibility of the Dad to have the honor of paying for the procedure. This can be another important reward for obedient behavior.
Son agrees to obey any instructions given when being punished - to bend over, go over Dad's knee or take up any other position and to take down his trousers to bare his bottom if required even if there are other people present.
Next comes an article written most obvisouly by a master spanker. The author explains in painstaking detail the importance of position and posture.
One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning.
Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. These positions generally work to the advantage of the spanker and the disadvantage of the spankee.
Full access to the bottom to be spanked. The spankee's position is designed to fully expose their bottom and the spanker's relative position is designed to put that bottom at a convenient angle and height. Therefore, the spanker is able completely view, tweak, pat, and spank it.
The spankee realizes the following effects from their position:
Following are descriptions of various positions that I find erotic, their distinguishing characteristics, tactics that can be used to enhance them, and precautions to take. All descriptions assume a right-handed spanker.
In order to preserve modesty, the person being spanked may be tempted to lie flat with their head up and legs straight out behind; however, if they are concerned for their modesty, they shouldn't have gotten themselves spanked in the first place. The spankee's head and shoulders should be angled down and their knees tucked down out of the way so that their bottom is well turned up. A palm pressed against the back of the head and swats to the thighs are helpful in positioning the spankee.
Knees should be at least six inches apart and the lower back should be "arched" or dipped to further turn up their rear. Depending on size, toes will either be resting against the floor or hoisted off a few inches. The full weight of the spankee should be resting on the lap.
Hands can either be on the floor or grasping the legs of the chair. If the right hand flies back during spanking, it should be pinned to the lower back by the spanker's left hand.
Prior to starting to spank, the spanker should firmly grasp the spankee's waist above the right hip with the left hand to prevent squirming off the lap. Then the left elbow should be planted between the shoulder blades to keep the head and shoulders from bobbing up.
The spanker should raise their right knee slightly, turning up the bottom further. When spanking a boy, make sure his penis is pressed firmly against your right thigh and aimed to the left.
By turning their upper body to the right, the spanker can get a fuller swing and more comfortably apply a stronger swat.
By combining all of these tactics - the raised knee, the elbow in the back, the hand in the small of the back - the spanker can effectively pin the spankee down and spank the daylights out of them.
It is not possible to more fully expose and present a rear end than when in this position. When one is told to bend over and grab their ankles, one is, in effect, being told, "we intend to thoroughly paddle your bottom. So not only will you present your rear-end but you will stretch and endeavor to stick it up and out as far as you can absolutely positively can. And throughout the paddling, you will continue to strain to stick it out for the paddle."
Since the angle between the legs and the upper body is well under 90 degrees, this position spreads the cheeks and exposes the rectum and genitals more than any other position.
This is a great fantasy position but I think it only works safely in reality for spankees with flexible bodies (especially when a thick paddle is used). Inflexible people can't reach their ankles without bending their knees. Men run the risk of getting their testicles whacked. Non-fleshy butts get pulled tightly across the pelvic bones and don't provide enough padding when a heavy paddle is used.
Again, feet should be shoulder width apart and hand position enforced. Because the back can be arched and bottom upturned, it should be required, both prior and during the paddling. A technique which tends to arch the back correctly is to require the student to look forward at a spot high on the wall. That way, they are required to pull their head up and arch their back.
This is a relaxed, comfortable position which works well for lengthy spankings.
The spankee must kneel in the seat of a padded chair (save those knees) facing the back with the thighs vertical and upper body forward over the back. Again, the spankee should be required to arch the back well.
Two things conspire to shape his bottom cutely. First, the back of the chair prevents him from bending so far as to preclude a good back arch. Second, just as high heels shape calves fully by angling the foot to shorten and bulge the calf muscle, kneeling with the calves at right angles to the thighs seems to allow the buttocks to bulge fully.
I've found the following tactics can be used to enhance and focus on positioning: