A note from a Dad's who's begun spanking his boys:
Cal,
In my earlier note I commented on a net picture called "Waiting in the Wood Shed". It's a powerful image and sticks out in my mind, especially when one of my boy's has a spanking coming. This picture captured a good looking young man waiting for punishment in his own Dad's woodshed. Clearly he's been there before, but now he's waiting.....jeans at his ankles, briefs up and bent over waiting for Dad. Dad will come shortly, probably Dad his briefs down as most Dad's do even these days, and an application of the strap or paddle is imminent. What came to mind is how much of punishment is waiting. Waiting and thinking. Something a boy needs to know. Wait until you father gets home is, of course, the line mothers use to warn their disobedient sons and it works. How often we send the boys to their room to "wait" for Dad to come with belt, strap, paddle, or brush.....or of course, his strong hand.
I use a good deal of waiting time with my own boys here at home. If punishment is due, under normal circumstances, the boy goes to his room immediately after dinner and waits until I am ready and I stress until I am ready! A wait of an hour or longer would not be too long and often enough that hour is spent in the corner with his jeans down, sometimes even his briefs; or face down on the bed with his bare ass waiting for me or in some other "waiting" position I decide on. I decide and my boy will obey whether he wants to or not. I consider his time waiting very important as a preparation for punishment and like you, feel that corner time is quite often best spent before the spanking and not necessarily afterwards although I have employed both.
Here is a personal question, Cal. Do you remain fully dressed when spanking the boys? While I usually do, I have spanked them when I have been only in my boxers and thought I would ask you and could you tell me what other Dad's you know do? From what I can see, my own boys seem far more concerned with their own butts than my state of dress or undress, but it occurred to me that some might consider this a bit strange. What do other Dad's do?
I have not mentioned too much about my own boys as we both recognize it takes time to build up solid trust; but my oldest who is the only one home for two weeks is a big, strong boy. He is very athletic and probably weighs in at 215 plus and is over 6 ft tall. I stopped putting him over my knee years ago though I probably shouldn't have and will likely start again. More recently when he gets spanked it is with the strap and he is told to lie face down on the bed with his pants down and his ass completely bare. If I do put him over my knee for a concluding session with the hairbrush which, as you know, is something I believe strongly in, I use the bed to support him. Possibly that way cuts down with his physical contact with me over my knees? For sure I can see how I'm more able to spank his bare ass well, right down there, when he's over my knees and realize that's what I should be aiming for? I've briefly heard comments from other boy's Dad's as he was growing up and that's what they appeared to do. Over their laps, that is, but then again other Dad's haven't talked too openly about this anymore these days.
Perhaps because he is my oldest he both accepts and takes the strap very well and he well understands it will continue to be part of his life with me regardless of his age when things so merit. When punishment is decreed for him, interestingly enough he never argues at all but quickly goes immediately to his room and gets ready for it. Obedience is something I value in my household, regardless of age.
Your comments about the boys being very free in any state of undress when they are simply about and yet get quite embarrassed when they are stripped for punishment is so very true around here. These guys can sit around all day in nothing at all but their shorts and never blink an eye but when Dad shows up to strip down their jeans and briefs for a strapping you would think it was being done in public! Amazing . . . They know they are in most serious trouble when I strip them like little boys and I know that adds to the humiliation and effectiveness of any punishment. It simply works very well.
My oldest will have an attitude adjustment session sometime this weekend, probably on Saturday morning. Should be a lot of tears and apologies flowing then but he's been building up for this one and it's time I pull him back in line. So I will. I keep a close thumb of him, and the others too. Maybe I'm just too conservative, but no off-color language or sassing or too much bear. I teach my boys responsibility in all things. Saturday mornings seem to work best around here. Not sure what other Dad's do? Here most of the family's out at one thing or another on a Saturday morning so I just keep the one home that I'm tending too. Everybody knows what the boy kept at home and is upstairs waiting on a Saturday morning is going to get from me once they drive down the drive and away and that's how it should be. The younger one get more upset, of course, but my eldest get going real good too. The strap will do that to him. I will tell you how it turns out.
Having used the strap on the boys for years I must say I believe that too many people fail to realize how valuable a tool it can be in keeping boys on the straight and narrow and yet allowing them the freedom to grow and develop. Corporal punishment has been too quickly abandoned under the guise of "abusive" behavior. That is most unfortunate. My strap can be applied firmly and effectively yet without damage or abuse and not more than my boy needs or the situation calls for and I'm sure you do it the same. Too many of my sons' friends could use some time with their own Dad and a session or two across their laps, but while some get what they need and get spanked, paddled, or strapped, at least those I know about, others have Dads who seem just uncaring enough to bother. Often it's their sons who would benefit the most and need to firm limits before they really screw up their lives. Again my point. That is most unfortunate. The strap has an important role with teenage boys especially today and I'm sure my results prove it. It takes time and it's important the right relationship is there, but when those factors are present, the surity of the strap falling across a teenage boy's bare ass today is still the best way to insure he does what he should and what you've told him. If he doesn't, that's what the strap is for. It works.
I hope we can continue to talk and share ideas on this subject.
Rick
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note: if any of the readers, especially any of the Father's, wants to comment or add to this, please let me know and I'll be happy to pass it to the author. If you want to comment only to me, that's fine too, but please just say so. For all those who wrote on the posting "Dads who Spank a Teenage Boy," I've read them all and will reply as I can and if you asked for a reply. Cal