Letter #3: A Mentor
Dear Cal,
I want to talk about my relationship with my own mentor and how effective it is. He is older and a true believer and his methods work well because punishment spankings are relatively rare. We don't live together but we are very close. However, when he judges it to be necessary I'm there, and then sometimes he heads for the kitchen (or sends me) to get the heavy wooden salad spoon. Thankfully, he is not as strict as he might be. But his disciplinary spankings hurt plenty, and I try to avoid them. He spanks hard from the very beginning, which quickly eliminates any initial _s_e_x_ual arousal on my part. And once he finds his rhythm, he applies the hardwood spoon long enough and hard enough to make certain that I learn a lesson. In fact he likes to see my backside hot and glowing, and readily admits that he gets quite excited while disciplining me. Maybe I shouldn't say it but I'm glad he gets something out of it too.
And, consistent with things you've said, both my mentor and I feel better afterwards. Several years ago we transformed his helping me with some small school and career and things into a device for the true-to-life enforcement of his rules. Unlike Scott, I had no say in those rules. At first, he was not completely comfortable with it and he is not a cruel man by nature, but he couldn't help but notice that a spanking worked so well and I started changing bad habits. Now, he has no guilt or conflict about either the pain or my humiliation, and his threats of hard spankings are a regular part of our very real relationship. I take them very seriously! He will sometimes pull me aside and whimper, when no one else can hear, "If you fail to (whatever) I will blister your bare behind" and I assure you that my behavior is quite influenced by trying to avoid that outcome. He has told me I become very red when he says that no matter who is around or where we are. I am sure I do. I get a major rush anytime he said anything like that! He's 59. I'm 24. I know I can learn a lot from him and I sure am.
The defining moment in this power relationship was the first time I was punished when I personally felt that I was innocent. In my "former life," I would have argued my position and tried to convince him that I was right, or that I was not guilty of the perceived misconduct. I might even have reacted with some disrespectful, hurtful or mean words or deeds. Those days are long gone.
Now that he spanks for disciplinary purposes as my mentor, I never persist with disagreement or argument, even when I may strongly believe that I am right. When that situation is presented, I accept his authority completely. I realize that going over his knee is in my own best interests because the conflict will thus be resolved. It is not always "fair," but it is certainly efficacious, and it provides a sense of security for both of us. I have learned never to argue and to accept authority no matter what. I think it is a valuable lesson for business I hope to do in the future.
Based on my experience, I can assure any of your male readers that a system like this with a Mentor looking over a guy and with clear rules and goals and the absolute certainty of a trip over his lap if you fail, well it truly works to maintain order and respect in the relationship or around a home, but it also raises your goals and what you ultimately want out of life. Here it is in a nutshell, gentlemen: It hurts like the dickens when you are over his knee getting spanked, but the love and care and respect is in this at all times. He's older, more experienced, wiser (in his case) and looks after my long-term interests all at the same time. No guy who has been spanked for real on the bare behind by a stern Mentor wants to offer his bottom up for punishment ever again. It is not _s_e_x_y at that point for sure. But it is for the best in the long run to submit to his authority in all matters, try to learn from your mistakes and avoid whining about your predicament. You will become a more thoughtful boy, without a doubt, and your relationship will be better without bickering and arguing. If you're really lucky enough to have a real Mentor, your life is only going to get better and after I finished University and went out in the job market I am proof of that fact. I got real training in how to land that job and I am far ahead of any of my peers and farther ahead now in life than I ever thought I ever would be. But I'm also happier too because it's great to have someone you can talk with about ANYTHING and still feel accepted, safe, and guided. It may sound strange to people who aren't in the know, but it's great!
Thanks for letting us in on what happened with Scott. That's what gave me the nerve to write and it's also made me feel better too knowing he's out there for real and not just some story even though stories can be interesting too and some even turn-on's. The policies and practices you advocate may be happening in a relatively small percentage of cases, but they are profoundly beneficial to those who believe in and live in this lifestyle. We are the lucky ones, though our fannies are often hot and red, but that's OK cause that's what being a "boy" means!
Most respectfully,
Tommy (who is writing with a very red fanny under my slacks tonight)