Should a fifteen year old boy still be getting spanked, much less on his bare bottom? And if so should he still be subject to being spanked by his mother, or even in front oher for that matter?
The reason I ask is that I was over at my cousin's house last week and their fifteen year old son, Scott, was acting up. Finally he pushed his father just a little to far and ended up getting a spanking. First his father made him pull his jeans and his underwear down to his ankles, and you could tell this greatly embarrassed the boy, before putting him over his knee and giving him a long and hard spanking. Next a still sobbing Scott was told to go and stand in the corner and think about his behaviour, and was made to stand there, nose to the wall or like thirty minutes.
While Scott was in the corner we had a short conversation about teenagers and discipline and while it wasn't a shock to find out that Scott is spanked with some reqularity it was quite surprising to find out that my cousin still spanks Scott as well. It seems like that just a week before he had gotten very lippy with her and found himself pants down and over his Mother's lap and soundly spanked with a hairbrush. Was she right in doing so or should she have waited until her husband got home? And if she is going to spank her son isn't he at the age where maybe he should be bending over a chair or something instead of going over her knee? And that considering his maturity level maybe he should be keeping he underwear on? Also in their household, any time Scott is spanked it is always followed by corner time. I don't know that I agree with putting a teenage in the corner, especially without at least letting him pull his pants up first. I know that n my household, should I ever have a kid, he will know that he is subject to being spanked for as long as he lives under my roof. However all of his spankings will be private affairs between me and him.
I brought a couple of hese questions up to Scott's parents and they acted as if I was the one who wasn't thinking clearly. Their opinion was that if he needed a spanking it needed to be done then and there, none of this waiting for your father to get home business, and as for being spanked in front of others, that only happened in front of family and close friends , and that if Scott didn't want this to occur all he had to do was act accordingly. Eventually a very red faced Scott was called out of the corner and given a short but stern lecture before being allowed to pull his pants back up. What got me thinking though was his behaviour rest of the day. Instead of sulking or pouting, like I would have at that age, he was as a polite young man as you would ever want to meet. So were his parents correct in disciplining this way or could have the same results been achived using slightly different methods?
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