I must say, judging from the emails that I have received from so many of you that there is a lot of interest and also a considerable amount of confusion regarding Corporal punishment, and even about your children. It is no wonder that our children are confused if we are.
We talked previously about the importance of CONTROL. If you want your children to grow up properly then you have to control their lives. It is as simple as that. For them, life must be a certainty. And that means the ground rules under which they behave are crystal clear and your actions toward any deviation unequivocal. Doubt is the mother of all evil.
Once again, I am shocked at how many of you regularly check under the hood of your car but yet never check under the hood of your sons. It is no wonder that he believes he can live a secret life from you. If you are going to control your sons, you control them all the time. You do not just reign them in when they do something wrong just like you do not just steer your car only after it hits something. There is tremendous psychological advantage to embarrassment and humiliation. There is a psychological advantage in your son knowing and accepting you seeing him naked. There is tremendous psychological advantage to the sting of Corporal punishment. If you use these advantages to your advantage, you will have a well behaved boy. Simply beating your sons backside until it is raw is not effective control. In order for you to have control, you must have submission. If you son resists or argues when you tell him to do something, you do not have control. Control comes from absolute responses to negative behavior. When I tell one of my sons to go up to his room and prepare his punishment, he has only one course of action: go up to his room take off his clothing and move his desk chair to the center of the room and wait. When I go up to his room, and I take my time, he stands before me, in submissive Parade Rest position, while I tell him why he is being punished and what the punishment is for. When I have finished, he can then make one final pleading if he feels he is innocent or if there are circumstances that I should consider. Once that is done, I turn to his desk and fill out his Progress Book for that day and make the proper notation for Saturday. My son knows that each infraction comes with a minimum of 20 spanks. I administer no more than 80 spanks in one day. Any spanks earned over 80 are carried over to the next day. And, he knows that any carry over is a guarantee of a punishment enema on Saturday morning. He knows all of this. He knows if he argues or begs, or delays preparing for his punishment, that his punishment will be doubled. Also, he signs the Punishment book acknowledging his infraction and states in writing that he has not committed any other infraction that he has not informed me of on that day. Should I ever find out to the contrary, then the punishment is long and severe. He knows this and will usually confess to misdeeds I have no knowledge of.
My son knows if he resists punishment or pleads for leniency his punishment will be doubled. Has he had his punishment doubled? Yes. But not too often. Once Certainty is established then you have Control.
I have spent far too much time lecturing. I have received dozens of emails in the last week from you asking me about specific questions or help in dealing with your sons. I will read some of your questions now and share the answers with the audience:
"My son, Bobby, is 13. I have never spanked him. I have not seen him naked since he was 6. He gets upset if I even see him in his underwear. When I take him to the pool, he refuses to even change out of his wet bathing suit, choosing to ride home and getting my car seats soaked in chlorine. He is a big guy. I cant make him submit to a bare-assed spanking alone without getting into a knock-down fight with him. What do I do?" This is a common email that I have received. It shows the degree of lack of control you have over your sons. Sit down with him and tell him calmly what the new rules are and how those rules are going to be enforced, Tell him he will submit willingly or else his punishments will be doubled. Once you state the rules, tell him to submit by going to his room or wherever punishment is to be given and removing his clothes and wait for his punishment. If he refuses, Reverend Sloan has formed a Spank Club which is like a Co-Op. If you join, they have volunteers who will come to your home and help you get Bobby under control. I doubt they will need to visit more than once or twice. First, you have the muscle to force compliance and second, he will have an audience as he is being punished.
""My son Nate is 15. I stopped spanking him around his 10th birthday because he always got erections and I did not know what to do or why he was getting them. If he got them at 10, what might happen if I were to resume spanking at 15?" First of all, erections are very normal in adolescent boys. They get them dozens of times a day. In my practice, more than half of my patients will become erect when undressed, many before I even touch them. It is an uncontrolled response triggered by any of a number of things from the embarrassment of being naked to the feeling of air moving around their genitals. Some boys when they get scared get hard. Do not be overly alarmed just because your son gets an erection. Actually, it is to your advantage as it is normally very embarrassing for the boy to show his penis erect. Go with it. Call it to his attention to enhance his embarrassment. Ask him about it. Ask him why he got erect? Ask him if he has a _s_e_x_ual problem that he needs to discuss with you? The more you embarrass and humiliate your son during punishment, the less he will want to repeat doing something that will get him punished.
"Arthur is 12. I have spanked him since he was 4. I have seen no improvement in his behavior. He seems just as bad as the rest of the cohorts he associates with. Why do you see spanking as a panacea when it clearly is not?" This is an excellent question and I am glad you raised it. Corporal punishment alone is not a panacea. You did not mention if you spank your son when he is naked or even if he takes his pants down. I think you all need to understand that the physical pain of spanking is only a portion of the medicine being applied during Corporal punishment. Previously, I have spoken of the ritual of punishment. An important part of that ritual is total submission and compliance by your son. Once he has earned his punishment, he has functions that he has to perform. You choose the time, the place and the type of punishment he is to receive. Once you have told him he is to be punished, the die is cast. I choose to inform my son that he just earned himself 20 (20 whacks is the minimum punishment per offense he earns. He can earn multiple punishments or I may choose to increase the punishment due to the offense). He knows he will receive his punishment at 8pm in his room. He spends the rest of his day contemplating that and trying to avoid adding further to his punishment. In other words, my son will FOCUS better on his behavior. You want Arthur to submit and comply with your directive. At a place and time you designate, he is to remove all of his clothing and simply wait. You may say to be ready at 8pm. It does not mean that you have to be punctual. I have made my son wait up to an hour and he does so naked. I can assure you that he is not thinking of yesterdays football game while waiting naked in his room for the door to open and me to walk in. Vary your punishments. I mention that my son earns 20 per offense. They are not always on his bared buttocks. More often than not, they are applied to his inner thigh. For this method, I have him lay down on his bed on his back. I then tell him to raise one leg and turn his body slightly away from where I am standing. I then tell him to grab his genitals to protect them from errant swats. I then tell him to keep his eyes open and watch and I watch to make sure he does as I administer 10 whacks on his one thigh before I move to the other side and he repeats the process of positioning himself so I can administer his next 10. Inner thigh spanks deliver a painful sting. He has to comply with positioning adding to his submission. He has to hold his genitals which is additionally embarrassing. And, he has to maintain eye contact which is the most degrading thing for a boy. If I spank his ass, he gets over my knees and spreads his legs, toes (and only toes) touching the ground and he must keep his legs spread. Follow these rules and your son will soon learn that spanking is the least of his problems.
"I was raised in a very strict household. My step father used the belt on me so hard I sometimes could not sit for days. Yet, it did not stop me from doing things he would not approve like smoking and masturbation." Most times, he never found out. You cant be watching your son all the time and when you are not, he is going to be the same rotten kid." Another good point. It is true that you cannot watch your son 24 7, nor should you have to. If you have total control, he will be conditioned to do the right thing even when you are not around. Conditioning comes from control and with unequivocal rules and certainty of punishment. Pain is only one of the ingredients of punishment. In fact, if you add equal amounts of Humiliation and embarrassment with a little anxious anticipation, you need not put so much emphasis on the pain of the punishment. I am not a strong advocate of beating your boys till their asses are raw. If punishment is all about pain, some boys will take it as a challenge to take the pain. Too much pain will build resentment and resentment breeds rebellion. Embarrassment and humiliation, on the other hand, are personal weaknesses of the human psyche. You can peel away the hard tough guy attitude with embarrassment and humiliation. The military uses these emotions when dealing with POWs. It is a form of psychological warfare. Soldiers will tolerate immense pain. But subject them to humiliation and they melt. That is why the Iraqi prisoners were made to engage in oral _s_e_x_ and photographed. They could endure pain but not humiliation. I am not advocating forcing your sons into that kind of abuse. But what I am saying is that if you balance pain with humiliation and embarrassment, you can effectively control your son in and outside of your presence. In this case, the gentleman who wrote remembers vividly his dads use of the belt, but makes no mention of humiliation and embarrassment.
"How do you determine how many smacks are given for an offense? Do I send a wrong message if I say to Jimmy that for lying he gets 10 smacks but for watching TV shows he is not allowed to he gets 20 which would then imply that lying is not as offensive as illicit TV viewing?" I have a simplified method of assigning punishment for my sons. One is nearly 7 and one is 13. They both get the same the same punishment, however, the degree is influenced by their age. I do not spank my younger son quite as forcefully as my older son. As far as numbers, I tend not to get into a numbers game and trying to assign degrees to offenses. I simply give 20 smacks per offense. More serious offenses or compounding offenses will result in 20 becoming 30 or 40. I give no more than 80 smacks a day. If my son has earned more than 80, the balance will carry over to the next day and such a prodigious day of offenses will get further recognized on the weekend. On Friday evenings, he brings me his Progress book and together we review his week starting from the prior Saturday. If he has earned punishments on more than 3 days then he will be punished on Saturday. Further, if he has earned more than 80 smacks during that period, he will get additional punishment on Saturday. Saturday punishment is Creative punishment time. It may take the form of a punishment enema or it may take the form of spanking with implement. I normally use only my hand when spanking my sons either to their inner thighs or their buttocks. On Saturdays, they can expect something different. Maybe it will be time to break out the ping pong paddle. Maybe instead of over my knee, it will be over a chair. Or maybe it will be hands pressed against the wall over head, legs spread wide and out and a dose of the belt to the thighs. Saturday punishments are meant to instill fear of the anticipation. The only thing that my sons will be sure of is that it will not be the typical punishment received during the week
I see a question the audience: "What do you mean by a punishment enema?" I covered this in earlier discussions. Enemas are an old fashioned treatment that our grandparents and maybe even our parents used. Often they were used for medicinal reasons when you were sick but sometimes they were used as punishment also. They are very embarrassing and can also be very discomforting. Typically, an enema involves the introduction of a mild irritant such as soap. Those of you that have ever gotten an enema probably remember the distinct smell of Ivory soap as its pureness was often the remedy of choice. The solution was usually tepid warm water, made only mildly cloudy with soap. The more soap, the stronger the irritant so the whiter the liquid solution became the more obnoxious the cramping. Elevating the temperature a bit also adds to the cramping. You can also add to the cramping by rapid introduction of the solution simply by raising the enema bag higher. Typically, you want the bag held about two feet over the patient. Raise it to 4 feet and it will go in to his colon with a vengeance. Making your son hold that enema for 15 minutes or performing some simple motions like squatting down, jumping jacks or even a few push-ups or sit ups will add to the urgency of evacuation. For a really wicked enema, warm milk and molasses will teach a wayward son the cost of disobedience. A pint or two of warmed milk mixed with 2-4 tablespoons of black strop molasses will have your son glued to the toilet for three hours and close to it for 24.
"How far do I push humiliation and embarrassment? Should I invite my neighbor over to watch? Should I spank my son in public?" Creativity is the spice of humiliation and embarrassment. Just remember that your objective is the embarrassment and humiliation on your son, not observers. Make sure they are comfortable with being present or it could backfire on you. Some think they need to conduct spanking in a room with the windows closed so no one hears. Frankly, I think it is good if your son knows others may hear. If you think a little public display is in order, join Reverend Sloans spanking coop. There you are guaranteed an audience. Perhaps having your wife observe will be sufficient. Being naked in front of his mom may add to his embarrassment provided only that she is comfortable with Corporal punishment. I would avoid public displays where you cannot control the environment. You do not want a stranger taking exception and raising a fuss.
"What other forms of punishment do you find acceptable besides spankings and enemas?" Another excellent question. A nice, change of pace is the soap-stick suppository. Take a fresh bar of Ivory soap, slice the bar into 6 wedges. I say wedges because it is better if you slice the bar so that one end is a bit wider than the other end. Under warm water, smooth the edges and round the tips, and wrap the final product in plastic wrap. The next time you need to enforce a message with your son, simply unwrap a wedge, wet it with warm water and then have him bend over, legs spread. Insert the wedge into his rectum as deeply as your finger may push it and have him stand and walk 25 steps before laying down on his bed letting Nature take its course. He should spend 45 minutes to an hour allowing the soapstick to melt. You should stay to observe as it compounds the embarrassment and discomfort. To discourage unproved language, wet a wash cloth, generously soap up with Ivory and have your son hold the wet, soapy cloth in his mouth while you spank him. Ginger root in place of soap is also an excellent suppository. You can order them on the Internet. Scrotum slaps with a rubber spatula works wonders if you can moderate your slaps to avoid damage. I prefer to see this used only for _s_e_x_ual digressions. Castor Oil still leaves a bad taste in the miscreants mouth, no pun intended.
"After I spank my son, who is 11, he becomes so wildly hysterical that I cannot calm him down and he scares me." This is a tactic similar to a tantrum. There are two excellent ways of dealing with this. One is to use a rectal thermometer and take his temperature over you knee. Rectal temperature taking has a soothing effect on a boy. Another solution is a clear, warm water enema. A quart of clear water will calm him down and make him fall to sleep quickly.
"I see evidence that my son masturbates after his spankings. To me this is unacceptable behavior. How can I control this?" While I do not prohibit my sons from masturbation, I choose to control it by having a web cam set up on the shelf opposite the foot of his bed. It is not hidden. It sits there prominently with its red light always on. I do not record though my son does not know that. It discourages him from any embarrassing (for him) activity in his bed. The ever-on red light is always a gentle reminder. Remove the locks from your sons bedroom door. Forbid him from closing the door particularly after his spanking. Warn him that he will be severely punished should he masturbate after his spanking and early the next morning check for obvious signs, such as discarded tissues under the bed or wastebasket. Examine his sheets or if he sleeps in his underwear, check those for telltale signs. Finally, sprinkle his penis and testicles generously with Ammens medicated powder and rub till the surface of his genitals are white. Warn him that in the morning you will check both his genitals and his hands. If he masturbates, the powder will be either gone or there will be bare spots. Also, his hands will smell of the powder. Deal harshly with behavior specifically prohibited.
I have spoken long enough this evening. If you have any questions you want me to address, please write me at Pedprac@yahoo. com. Please let me know if you want only a private response or if I can share your query with others. Your name will not be used. Next time, I will discuss in more detail the Spank Club.
I must say, judging from the emails that I have received from so many of you that there is a lot of interest and also a considerable amount of confusion regarding Corporal punishment, and even about your children. It is no wonder that our children are confused if we are.
We talked previously about the importance of CONTROL. If you want your children to grow up properly then you have to control their lives. It is as simple as that. For them, life must be a certainty. And that means the ground rules under which they behave are crystal clear and your actions toward any deviation unequivocal. Doubt is the mother of all evil.
Once again, I am shocked at how many of you regularly check under the hood of your car but yet never check under the hood of your sons. It is no wonder that he believes he can live a secret life from you. If you are going to control your sons, you control them all the time. You do not just reign them in when they do something wrong just like you do not just steer your car only after it hits something. There is tremendous psychological advantage to embarrassment and humiliation. There is a psychological advantage in your son knowing and accepting you seeing him naked. There is tremendous psychological advantage to the sting of Corporal punishment. If you use these advantages to your advantage, you will have a well behaved boy. Simply beating your sons backside until it is raw is not effective control. In order for you to have control, you must have submission. If you son resists or argues when you tell him to do something, you do not have control. Control comes from absolute responses to negative behavior. When I tell one of my sons to go up to his room and prepare his punishment, he has only one course of action: go up to his room take off his clothing and move his desk chair to the center of the room and wait. When I go up to his room, and I take my time, he stands before me, in submissive Parade Rest position, while I tell him why he is being punished and what the punishment is for. When I have finished, he can then make one final pleading if he feels he is innocent or if there are circumstances that I should consider. Once that is done, I turn to his desk and fill out his Progress Book for that day and make the proper notation for Saturday. My son knows that each infraction comes with a minimum of 20 spanks. I administer no more than 80 spanks in one day. Any spanks earned over 80 are carried over to the next day. And, he knows that any carry over is a guarantee of a punishment enema on Saturday morning. He knows all of this. He knows if he argues or begs, or delays preparing for his punishment, that his punishment will be doubled. Also, he signs the Punishment book acknowledging his infraction and states in writing that he has not committed any other infraction that he has not informed me of on that day. Should I ever find out to the contrary, then the punishment is long and severe. He knows this and will usually confess to misdeeds I have no knowledge of.
My son knows if he resists punishment or pleads for leniency his punishment will be doubled. Has he had his punishment doubled? Yes. But not too often. Once Certainty is established then you have Control.
I have spent far too much time lecturing. I have received dozens of emails in the last week from you asking me about specific questions or help in dealing with your sons. I will read some of your questions now and share the answers with the audience:
"My son, Bobby, is 13. I have never spanked him. I have not seen him naked since he was 6. He gets upset if I even see him in his underwear. When I take him to the pool, he refuses to even change out of his wet bathing suit, choosing to ride home and getting my car seats soaked in chlorine. He is a big guy. I cant make him submit to a bare-assed spanking alone without getting into a knock-down fight with him. What do I do?" This is a common email that I have received. It shows the degree of lack of control you have over your sons. Sit down with him and tell him calmly what the new rules are and how those rules are going to be enforced, Tell him he will submit willingly or else his punishments will be doubled. Once you state the rules, tell him to submit by going to his room or wherever punishment is to be given and removing his clothes and wait for his punishment. If he refuses, Reverend Sloan has formed a Spank Club which is like a Co-Op. If you join, they have volunteers who will come to your home and help you get Bobby under control. I doubt they will need to visit more than once or twice. First, you have the muscle to force compliance and second, he will have an audience as he is being punished.
""My son Nate is 15. I stopped spanking him around his 10th birthday because he always got erections and I did not know what to do or why he was getting them. If he got them at 10, what might happen if I were to resume spanking at 15?" First of all, erections are very normal in adolescent boys. They get them dozens of times a day. In my practice, more than half of my patients will become erect when undressed, many before I even touch them. It is an uncontrolled response triggered by any of a number of things from the embarrassment of being naked to the feeling of air moving around their genitals. Some boys when they get scared get hard. Do not be overly alarmed just because your son gets an erection. Actually, it is to your advantage as it is normally very embarrassing for the boy to show his penis erect. Go with it. Call it to his attention to enhance his embarrassment. Ask him about it. Ask him why he got erect? Ask him if he has a _s_e_x_ual problem that he needs to discuss with you? The more you embarrass and humiliate your son during punishment, the less he will want to repeat doing something that will get him punished.
"Arthur is 12. I have spanked him since he was 4. I have seen no improvement in his behavior. He seems just as bad as the rest of the cohorts he associates with. Why do you see spanking as a panacea when it clearly is not?" This is an excellent question and I am glad you raised it. Corporal punishment alone is not a panacea. You did not mention if you spank your son when he is naked or even if he takes his pants down. I think you all need to understand that the physical pain of spanking is only a portion of the medicine being applied during Corporal punishment. Previously, I have spoken of the ritual of punishment. An important part of that ritual is total submission and compliance by your son. Once he has earned his punishment, he has functions that he has to perform. You choose the time, the place and the type of punishment he is to receive. Once you have told him he is to be punished, the die is cast. I choose to inform my son that he just earned himself 20 (20 whacks is the minimum punishment per offense he earns. He can earn multiple punishments or I may choose to increase the punishment due to the offense). He knows he will receive his punishment at 8pm in his room. He spends the rest of his day contemplating that and trying to avoid adding further to his punishment. In other words, my son will FOCUS better on his behavior. You want Arthur to submit and comply with your directive. At a place and time you designate, he is to remove all of his clothing and simply wait. You may say to be ready at 8pm. It does not mean that you have to be punctual. I have made my son wait up to an hour and he does so naked. I can assure you that he is not thinking of yesterdays football game while waiting naked in his room for the door to open and me to walk in. Vary your punishments. I mention that my son earns 20 per offense. They are not always on his bared buttocks. More often than not, they are applied to his inner thigh. For this method, I have him lay down on his bed on his back. I then tell him to raise one leg and turn his body slightly away from where I am standing. I then tell him to grab his genitals to protect them from errant swats. I then tell him to keep his eyes open and watch and I watch to make sure he does as I administer 10 whacks on his one thigh before I move to the other side and he repeats the process of positioning himself so I can administer his next 10. Inner thigh spanks deliver a painful sting. He has to comply with positioning adding to his submission. He has to hold his genitals which is additionally embarrassing. And, he has to maintain eye contact which is the most degrading thing for a boy. If I spank his ass, he gets over my knees and spreads his legs, toes (and only toes) touching the ground and he must keep his legs spread. Follow these rules and your son will soon learn that spanking is the least of his problems.
"I was raised in a very strict household. My step father used the belt on me so hard I sometimes could not sit for days. Yet, it did not stop me from doing things he would not approve like smoking and masturbation." Most times, he never found out. You cant be watching your son all the time and when you are not, he is going to be the same rotten kid." Another good point. It is true that you cannot watch your son 24 7, nor should you have to. If you have total control, he will be conditioned to do the right thing even when you are not around. Conditioning comes from control and with unequivocal rules and certainty of punishment. Pain is only one of the ingredients of punishment. In fact, if you add equal amounts of Humiliation and embarrassment with a little anxious anticipation, you need not put so much emphasis on the pain of the punishment. I am not a strong advocate of beating your boys till their asses are raw. If punishment is all about pain, some boys will take it as a challenge to take the pain. Too much pain will build resentment and resentment breeds rebellion. Embarrassment and humiliation, on the other hand, are personal weaknesses of the human psyche. You can peel away the hard tough guy attitude with embarrassment and humiliation. The military uses these emotions when dealing with POWs. It is a form of psychological warfare. Soldiers will tolerate immense pain. But subject them to humiliation and they melt. That is why the Iraqi prisoners were made to engage in oral _s_e_x_ and photographed. They could endure pain but not humiliation. I am not advocating forcing your sons into that kind of abuse. But what I am saying is that if you balance pain with humiliation and embarrassment, you can effectively control your son in and outside of your presence. In this case, the gentleman who wrote remembers vividly his dads use of the belt, but makes no mention of humiliation and embarrassment.
"How do you determine how many smacks are given for an offense? Do I send a wrong message if I say to Jimmy that for lying he gets 10 smacks but for watching TV shows he is not allowed to he gets 20 which would then imply that lying is not as offensive as illicit TV viewing?" I have a simplified method of assigning punishment for my sons. One is nearly 7 and one is 13. They both get the same the same punishment, however, the degree is influenced by their age. I do not spank my younger son quite as forcefully as my older son. As far as numbers, I tend not to get into a numbers game and trying to assign degrees to offenses. I simply give 20 smacks per offense. More serious offenses or compounding offenses will result in 20 becoming 30 or 40. I give no more than 80 smacks a day. If my son has earned more than 80, the balance will carry over to the next day and such a prodigious day of offenses will get further recognized on the weekend. On Friday evenings, he brings me his Progress book and together we review his week starting from the prior Saturday. If he has earned punishments on more than 3 days then he will be punished on Saturday. Further, if he has earned more than 80 smacks during that period, he will get additional punishment on Saturday. Saturday punishment is Creative punishment time. It may take the form of a punishment enema or it may take the form of spanking with implement. I normally use only my hand when spanking my sons either to their inner thighs or their buttocks. On Saturdays, they can expect something different. Maybe it will be time to break out the ping pong paddle. Maybe instead of over my knee, it will be over a chair. Or maybe it will be hands pressed against the wall over head, legs spread wide and out and a dose of the belt to the thighs. Saturday punishments are meant to instill fear of the anticipation. The only thing that my sons will be sure of is that it will not be the typical punishment received during the week
I see a question the audience: "What do you mean by a punishment enema?" I covered this in earlier discussions. Enemas are an old fashioned treatment that our grandparents and maybe even our parents used. Often they were used for medicinal reasons when you were sick but sometimes they were used as punishment also. They are very embarrassing and can also be very discomforting. Typically, an enema involves the introduction of a mild irritant such as soap. Those of you that have ever gotten an enema probably remember the distinct smell of Ivory soap as its pureness was often the remedy of choice. The solution was usually tepid warm water, made only mildly cloudy with soap. The more soap, the stronger the irritant so the whiter the liquid solution became the more obnoxious the cramping. Elevating the temperature a bit also adds to the cramping. You can also add to the cramping by rapid introduction of the solution simply by raising the enema bag higher. Typically, you want the bag held about two feet over the patient. Raise it to 4 feet and it will go in to his colon with a vengeance. Making your son hold that enema for 15 minutes or performing some simple motions like squatting down, jumping jacks or even a few push-ups or sit ups will add to the urgency of evacuation. For a really wicked enema, warm milk and molasses will teach a wayward son the cost of disobedience. A pint or two of warmed milk mixed with 2-4 tablespoons of black strop molasses will have your son glued to the toilet for three hours and close to it for 24.
"How far do I push humiliation and embarrassment? Should I invite my neighbor over to watch? Should I spank my son in public?" Creativity is the spice of humiliation and embarrassment. Just remember that your objective is the embarrassment and humiliation on your son, not observers. Make sure they are comfortable with being present or it could backfire on you. Some think they need to conduct spanking in a room with the windows closed so no one hears. Frankly, I think it is good if your son knows others may hear. If you think a little public display is in order, join Reverend Sloans spanking coop. There you are guaranteed an audience. Perhaps having your wife observe will be sufficient. Being naked in front of his mom may add to his embarrassment provided only that she is comfortable with Corporal punishment. I would avoid public displays where you cannot control the environment. You do not want a stranger taking exception and raising a fuss.
"What other forms of punishment do you find acceptable besides spankings and enemas?" Another excellent question. A nice, change of pace is the soap-stick suppository. Take a fresh bar of Ivory soap, slice the bar into 6 wedges. I say wedges because it is better if you slice the bar so that one end is a bit wider than the other end. Under warm water, smooth the edges and round the tips, and wrap the final product in plastic wrap. The next time you need to enforce a message with your son, simply unwrap a wedge, wet it with warm water and then have him bend over, legs spread. Insert the wedge into his rectum as deeply as your finger may push it and have him stand and walk 25 steps before laying down on his bed letting Nature take its course. He should spend 45 minutes to an hour allowing the soapstick to melt. You should stay to observe as it compounds the embarrassment and discomfort. To discourage unproved language, wet a wash cloth, generously soap up with Ivory and have your son hold the wet, soapy cloth in his mouth while you spank him. Ginger root in place of soap is also an excellent suppository. You can order them on the Internet. Scrotum slaps with a rubber spatula works wonders if you can moderate your slaps to avoid damage. I prefer to see this used only for _s_e_x_ual digressions. Castor Oil still leaves a bad taste in the miscreants mouth, no pun intended.
"After I spank my son, who is 11, he becomes so wildly hysterical that I cannot calm him down and he scares me." This is a tactic similar to a tantrum. There are two excellent ways of dealing with this. One is to use a rectal thermometer and take his temperature over you knee. Rectal temperature taking has a soothing effect on a boy. Another solution is a clear, warm water enema. A quart of clear water will calm him down and make him fall to sleep quickly.
"I see evidence that my son masturbates after his spankings. To me this is unacceptable behavior. How can I control this?" While I do not prohibit my sons from masturbation, I choose to control it by having a web cam set up on the shelf opposite the foot of his bed. It is not hidden. It sits there prominently with its red light always on. I do not record though my son does not know that. It discourages him from any embarrassing (for him) activity in his bed. The ever-on red light is always a gentle reminder. Remove the locks from your sons bedroom door. Forbid him from closing the door particularly after his spanking. Warn him that he will be severely punished should he masturbate after his spanking and early the next morning check for obvious signs, such as discarded tissues under the bed or wastebasket. Examine his sheets or if he sleeps in his underwear, check those for telltale signs. Finally, sprinkle his penis and testicles generously with Ammens medicated powder and rub till the surface of his genitals are white. Warn him that in the morning you will check both his genitals and his hands. If he masturbates, the powder will be either gone or there will be bare spots. Also, his hands will smell of the powder. Deal harshly with behavior specifically prohibited.
I have spoken long enough this evening. If you have any questions you want me to address, please write me at Pedprac@yahoo. com. Please let me know if you want only a private response or if I can share your query with others. Your name will not be used. Next week, I will discuss in more detail the Spank Club.