It started like so many email exchanges do. You post an ad, a guy writes to say he's interested and wants to know more. You write more, then, usually, that's it. But this exchange didn't turn out like that. It was going to lead to the most fulfilling experience in my 40+ years of spanking experience.
As I said, I'd been contacted by a guy who sounded like he had potential. His message to me was short and sweet,
"I'm a 52 yr old man in a relationship, 5'8", 145 and easy enough on the eye. I really love spanking guys - either just straight spanking or role play. I'm not that experienced - relatively new to it - but experienced to know that it really turns me on. I also love to make (safe) love to a guy after (but can let that go if the guy is really not into it.)."
I wasn't so sure about the relatively inexperienced part, since I've been a firm believer in the adage that one has to have served one's time on the receiving end to be an adequate top, but I liked the rest of the package a lot. And I'd been inactive for too long, with only a couple rather unsatisfactory encounters in recent months. So I responded, and in a bit more detail than usual. Normal procedure is to keep to the general stuff to avoid scaring away potential partners. But I decided that since that approach hadn't been all that successful lately, I'd just dive in and put my cards on the table.
"The bottom line is, I like to get spanked!
"55 year old GWM. 5'8", 145#, 32" waist. Brown graying hair, hazel eyes, clean shaven, smooth butt. Like many forms of spanking, but find OTK, BB the greatest. Have been doing this most of my life.
"Role play is great, but not essential. When role playing, I like scenes in which the spankee is treated like a boy. To my mind spanking is a juvenile form of punishment, and submitting to a spanking is surrendering your authority over a very private part of your body. I can spend quite a while over my spanker's knee, presenting my smooth little butt for a good spanking.
"Straightforward spankings are also great. I know a lot of guys who aren't comfortable with role play, and that's fine with me. Some of the most memorable spankings I've received didn't involve role play. But I've also been spanked for real misbehavior, which was something I once thought I couldn't get into. I was wrong.
"If the spanker is into it, additional punishments, such as corner time or not being allowed to put my pants back on for the rest of the meeting, are great. Some time I'd like to explore mouth-soaping, rectal temperature taking, enemas, etc. I'm not suggesting these have to happen. In fact, I'd only like them to happen if my spanking partner really wants to go that route.
"_s_e_x_ is not my goal in spanking, though it is a highly charged sensual experience and one thing can lead to another. Many guys don't want to head in that direction, and that is fine with me. I get all I need from the spanking scene itself.
"I could talk about this forever, but I think you probably get the picture. You know about me. What about you?"
Typed it, sent it, and expected that would be that. Business as usual.
But it wasn't. I heard back the next day, with a response that left no doubt this guy was interested.
"As I said, I haven't had much experience, but I've had enough to know that spanking is a major turn-on for me. I've spanked a couple guys, most recently an older guy who got into it to the point his mind couldn't deal with it. Since he was older and bigger than I am, I thought I'd have to take the spankings. We did that once, but I easily turned the tables and took over from there. From then on I spanked him. And I liked it a lot.
"I'd like to get together with you to explore further."
So, I thought, he easily turned the tables on an older and bigger man. Just my kind of guy. Though I've had lots of spanking experience in both roles over lots of years, I've always preferred to be on the receiving end, especially when my partner knows how to take control and deliver the goods. Even if this guy's technique weren't polished, there was potential, he had the right attitude. And I wouldn't mind developing the potential one bit. I responded and suggested he phone me. I knew he wasn't as free as I was to call, so I asked him to set a time. I was ready and waiting when he called.
When Brad called, we spent a couple minutes with the usual business about how great it was to have connected, then we got down to the serious talking. He wanted to know about my experience, so I gave him the in-a-nutshell version.
"It's true I started spanking when I was 13. I formed a club with a neighbor. There were only two members, and all the rules had spanking penalties. I don't know if he was really into it, but he could deliver a mean spanking. And I had a knack for breaking those rules. [This is also described in the first part of "My Spanking History," recently submitted to MMSA Stories.] We could have gone on for a long time that way, but his family moved, and that was it for spanking for some time.
"I started up again in my early 20s, answering spanking ads in "The Advocate," which was the best place for contacts at that time. Met a guy in his 50s who gave me my first adult spanking, with a strap, over his knee. It was pretty intense, with lots of anticipation, lecturing, and some verbal abuse. Looking back, I don't know how I dealt with that as a starter, but it didn't turn me off. But spanking was very occasional for some years after that. I was in a series of relationships, and none of my lovers was really into my type of spanking. There was one guy, I think we were together for five years, who spanked as foreplay. But he claimed it hurt his hand. I bought him a small paddle, so I guess he realized he had no excuse. It was fun on a sensual level, but nothing like what I was looking for.
"When I lived in New York for a couple of years, I met a great spanker who was wonderful at role lay, and fit the older father uncle principal figure to a "t." I learned a lot about getting into role play with him. There were also a couple other guys I met once or twice. A lot of it was role play, nearly always with me as a naughty boy.
"I continued like this for some years, especially after I moved back to town, until I was approaching 40 and realized my days as a spankee were probably numbered. Looking at the ads in the local gay paper I could see my age was restricting my opportunities. So I did the only logical thing. I advertised myself as both a spanker and spankee. I got more than two dozen responses the first time the ad ran. In those pre-internet days, we had to deal with newspaper ads and post office box addresses. It was very time consuming, but I deal with it.
"The first couple times I spanked I just had to rely on my own experience, taking pointers from spankers I'd especially liked. No one was more surprised than I when I discovered that I liked giving spankings, at times almost as much as getting them. I really got into it and was told I was a good spanker. I just did what I enjoyed doing. And most of the guys I met, who said they only wanted to get spanked, turned out to like turn around as well.
"Looking back, I guess it never did get to the point that I couldn't find a guy who wanted to spank my aging butt. I remember one guy, new to spanking but my age, who spanked like he'd gotten spanked by his mentor in the art. It was a unique experience, and rather clinical. He used a kitchen timer to mark the length of the spankings and corner time. He never announced how long he was setting it for, but he stuck to that time frame. He also took off his pants, "in case there was an accident." It was hot getting spanked by a guy who only wore white jockeys. And there was an "accident." I never expected a straight guy to give me a hand job as he held me across his knee, but he did. I guess that's just the way he was taught. But all in all, the coldness of this scene didn't draw me back to him.
"And there was the guy in Seattle, where I was for a professional meeting. He asked me to bring a list of misbehavior. This guy was into briefs. He wanted me in nothing else all evening, and he put me in a different style for each spanking. I think he spanked me 8 times. That was intense. He proved you don't have to go bare butt to give a good spanking. It was hot in an unexpected way. He was all business about it and felt it was his duty to deal with each and every point of misbehavior I'd listed. My butt was read and lightly bruised for the rest of that trip. I felt it on that interminable plane ride.
"But with many of the guys I've met lately, it's been equal give and take, even when the guy was more than 20 years younger. We'd do the usual role play, but also things like spanking games of chance, especially if we were evenly matched."
I'd said what I though was my piece and turned the conversation over to Brad.
"As I said I haven't had nearly your experience. I only got into spanking a couple years ago. The most recent was this older guy who is quite a bit taller. I expected that he'd want to spank me, and I went along with that. But the first time we met and got to it, I saw that he was no way in control. And I had him seeing that pretty soon as well, especially once I had him over my knee.
"He wanted me to spank him for things he'd done wrong. He'd keep a list and send it to me, we'd set up a time to meet, usually in a motel, and I'd spank him. He also liked enemas, so I gave those to him. And we eventually ended up in bed, though he said he was straight. I think it was discovering that he liked that that was too much for him. He freaked, and that was that."
He may have been "inexperienced," but I liked what he was saying. The mention of enemas caught my attention. As I'd said in my reply to him, I'd wanted to try some of those ancillary punishments of childhood, but I'd never had to guts to come out and say so, except once. Then he said, "Tell me what how you like to get spanked."
"I've been spanked many ways, in all the positions I can think of. I like to be over something, preferably my spanker's knee. Over-the-knee is, for me, the spanking position. And the spanking can start over my jeans or the briefs, but it has to get to the bare butt. That's when I know I'm getting spanked. I'm not into bondage in any sense, but I like the feeling of being held down firmly by the spanker. Reminds me of who is in control. I like that feeling. No matter how I squirm and struggle, I can't stop the spanking.
"You know, Brad, it's interesting that the last guy you spanked was into enemas. I've been intrigued by enemas for a long time, but I've never been given one since I was a kid. I contacted a guy who is a daddy to a few boys, and he gives various childhood punishments as well as spankings: enemas, mouth soapings, bathing. All to remind the boy he is still a boy. I understand he's really very good. I wanted to meet him, but things got a little out of hand. He told me to get together with one of his sons, a guy who lives not far from me. We were instructed to give each other spankings and enemas. The guy I met, though really hot, turned out to be a mistake. For one thing, he was highly paranoid about revealing anything about himself. For another, he didn't know how to gauge a spanking. He ended up whaling the hell out of my inner thighs. I was sore and bruised for more than a week. But no enema. I don't even what to think what that would have been like at his hands. I never wanted to see him again, and it turned me off from his dad as well. I couldn't believe he'd gotten me into that. He said he knew this son very well and he was to be trusted. Wrong.
"But on a more positive note, I guess what really turns me on the most is the adult child, daddy son sort of scene. I like a grown man being treated like a little boy. Corner time is great, something that should be part of every spanking. In a way, it's too bad I never hooked up with that daddy. When he described what he did, I nearly went right over the top. I think I've finally realized that it's that little boy treatment that is the best aspect of spanking to me. All spanking is a form of submission. And when you're over a guy's lap with your jeans and briefs around your ankles, offering him your bare butt, there's no doubt as to who is in control of the situation. Being sent to the corner between spankings, all that stuff is great for me. But I would like to try some of he other stuff."
"Well, that sounds hot to me, I think I'd really like to have you over my knee," Brad responded. "Have you ever cried?"
"No, I never have. The closest I came was actually during a scolding a guy gave me, even before he spanked me. I don't know why it affected me that way, but it was nearly more than I could deal with. But I didn't cry."
"Well, there's always a first time. But that's not important. We have to meet."
This was a statement, not a question. I knew this was his decision, and I was fine with that. He'd already taken charge. But he told me I should set up the scenario. I asked if he liked the report card scene, which intrigued him, but was new to him. I've used it lots of times, so I sat down to write the letter from the principal to Tony's father. I started off with my usual, fairly tame version, but my conversation with Brad led me to believe that I could go further with him. How much further is the subject of the next part of this story.
TO BE CONTINUED